I don’t know what triggered this thought yesterday. I recalled a date I had as a teenager. I did all the things… I would have had a better time if I had gotten together with my friends. It wasn’t enjoyable and we never did a second date.
I really liked this girl.
For all these years, I thought I had screwed up.
But looking back on it… she was playing dead the entire time. No effort. No happy attitude. No engagement. I don't even know why she agreed to go out. I’ve run across others over the years that did the same thing… just going through the motions. Another good reason to remain single.
It made me think of training dogs. Yeah, my brain works that way.
Some dogs are very hard to engage. Passive. No effort. Those are hard dogs to work with, especially since I won’t force a dog to like me or take actions. There was a Borzoi I was hired to work with 25 or so years ago just like this. Passive. No interest in just about anything.
Some dog owners are very hard to engage. Passive. They can’t relate much to the dog, don’t work the homework. Nothing. Playing dead.
Playing dead isn’t a good option. It’s not good in a date, dog or dog owner. You can try all you want, but the other person or dog needs to also engage for it to work out well.
Plan accordingly.
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