Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.
I see it kind of like marrying someone who has kids. You aren't just marrying them, the kids are part of a package deal. How that is done can either make or break whether things work out. With kids, it is disastrous if they hate the significant other. The marriage will be full of turmoil. Same with marrying someone where their dog hates your dog.
First step is attempting to build a relationship between the dogs. Just like you would need to build an acceptable relationship with their kids. If a successful relationship can be established, then the outcome has a better chance of succeeding.
One big mistake is to blame the dogs for their behavior. They are dogs. They need training and behavior modification in many cases. It is also a mistake to denigrate the other person because their dog doesn't like your dog. Just because you think they should be doing this are that... you aren't a dog trainer. You don't know what you are talking about.
I've seen some weird dynamics when the other person has issues with their intended's dog. It can stir up a lot of hurt feelings that never needed to happen.
With children, the issues are even more complicated. You should assume there is trauma, even if the other person says their kids are fine. Any broken home has kids with some kind of trauma. So, slow things down. You don't need to get married tomorrow or even next year. Don't put it on a timeline, instead measure it based upon whether the relationships are going to be healthy.
What about kids and dogs? Hoo boy, any problems are going to be multiplied if no one is getting along. Even if you love the other person and they love you, if their parallel relationships with your kids and dog aren't working out, that is a red flag you shouldn't ignore. The last thing anyone needs is a divorce or unhappy home. I've been brought into some very complicated dog-family situations; some fraught with hurt feelings, anger, and even worse. Sometimes I can settle the dog problems if I can get everyone on board. Sometimes I can get the dogs to get along. And it is above my pay grade to give them help in terms of family issues; that requires other experts, including the advice of close family members, friends, clergy, and possible family or individual therapists. No therapist, psychiatrist or psychologist would ever guarantee that they can fix your marriage problems. No dog trainer should likewise guarantee they can fix all dog problems in a family.
Thus, before things go too far, how about seeing how the relationships are going? Dating is a test drive, mainly of the character of the other person. What's on the outside isn't always what is going on inside. It also takes time for a good assessment to determine if dogs can get along, can be managed together safely, and if the two people see eye to eye on how to own a dog. If you have kids, slow things down until you are sure. Same if you both have dogs.
Plan accordingly.
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